Reactions become habitual

Why do our reactions feel as though they are out of our control?  We talk to our self after an unfavorable reaction, saying that we will not react that way if this happens again.  Yet, out it pops just the same, as though you have no control over your mind.  Your mind has stored all the reactions that you have experienced in the past and even though you do not want to repeat them, they are what surfaces when your buttons are pushed.  This is habitual.  Your mind reacts as it has done in the past, it doesn't take the time to consider the consequences.  Your mind goes into auto-pilot and before you have a chance to change your reaction it has already happened.

Start by creating a gap; some time between an event and your reaction. This will give you a chance to break the habitual reaction.  There is a calm that is deep within.  You need to go to that place before you react. Journey to your soul and control your reactions.   The longer the gap, the better, but even five minutes will help you to react in a new way.  Longer gaps have an amazing effect, sometimes the problem solves itself or doesn't seem that important any more.  You can save yourself a lot of stress, if you simply take some time to find clarity and your place in the situation.

Amed, Bali